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Twenty Things I Wish I Could Tell My Twenty Something Self

Two days ago I turned 30. EEEeeeeekk!!!! I often think back to my 20’s, and although I’m pretty content with how I lived life, there are a few things (or 20) that I would tell myself if I could go back in time.

  • You have to be a SHARK in this world or else you will get eaten alive. Especially at work. It’s all about CYA (cover your ass)

  • Never be shy.

  • Go after what you want. And GET IT.

  • Be assertive. Stand up for yourself. Don’t take crap from anyone.

  • Think outside the box. There’s always a better way.

  • Be friendly to everyone but if someone continues to disappoint you, cut the cord.

  • Don’t settle for anything less than the perfect man. They do exist, but DON’T look for him or try too hard. He will present himself.

  • Hold yourself to high standards. Continue being classy and fabulous, and surround yourself with similar people.

  • Money will come and go, learn not to depend on it for happiness. But don’t underestimate the importance of making it.

  • DON’T accumulate debt. Shred those credit cards. Buy something when you HAVE the money to buy it.

  • Spend as much time as you can with your family. Friends come and go, but family is your constant.

  • Advocate MORE for underprivileged children. Work harder for THEM, not your boss.

  • Go to bed early. Wake up early. Stop sleeping through all your classes!

  • Stop obsessing over your weight. You are HOT! In the future, after having kids, you will then realize what being FAT looks like.

  • STOP eating so much damn junk food! If you’re not careful, you will become diabetic. Strive to be healthier.

  • Play your violin more. DON’T GIVE IT UP! You may have to teach your own children one day.

  • Don’t depend on mommy and daddy for financial support, you are an adult. Get out there and hustle. Start your own business.

  • Travel, travel, travel. Explore more countries. Explore different cultures. Visit the third world. Expand your horizons. Sleep on the floor if you have to. Go by yourself if you have to. After having kids your jet-setting days will abruptly halt so make use of your freedom!

  • Don’t ever be afraid of anything. If you are afraid of something, then DIVE into it headfirst. Desensitize yourself. Take risks.

So that’s that. The thirties shall bring about new challenges. There’s a saying that goes “Your 20’s are for defining and your 30’s are for refining.” I’m looking forward to all that the future decade will bring my way.

About: Leila Rahmanian and Salar Rahmanian

Leila Rahmanian is married to Salar Rahmanian. They live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have three wonderful kids, two boys named Valentino Rahmanian and Caspian Rahmanian and a beautiful daughter named Persephone Rahmanian.