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Surviving 3 Kids Under 3

I am that crazy mom who apparently keeps having babies. Yes I try contraception but no joke guys NOTHING WORKS! Out of the 5 years I’ve been married I’ve been pregnant 4 times, and three of the pregnancies resulted in little monsters, who are now three, two, and an infant.

I also wouldn’t mind having more. Call me crazy, but I just LOVE being a mom. Don’t get me wrong it’s hard work, but totally worth it if you ask me.

Here are 5 survival tips, because when you have three kids three and under, every day is about SURVIVAL. These have worked out pretty well for me and sometimes I even fool myself in thinking that I have it all together.

STRUCTURE AND ROUTINE: We all do the same thing pretty much every day, except for the weekends of course. The kids know when it’s breakfast time, school time, “homework time”, nap time, quiet time, dinner time, bath time and bedtime. My three year old reminds me when it’s time to put the two year old for a nap and when it’s time to feed the baby. My two year old knows that during nap time he has to stay in his room and on his bed until he falls asleep, and both kids know that every day after dinner they need to make sure that the living room area (which has been converted to their playroom) is completely spotless. On weekends their routine is to go to the pool in the late afternoon and then have their dinner poolside. Toddlers thrive when there is structure and routine, and infants too! Baby Persephone has her own routine that works great for her as well! So we are really strict when it comes to their routines and they have to be in bed no later than 7:30pm. This means that sometimes we have to miss fun events and can’t socialize as much as we would like to, but at least my children won’t be grumpy due to lack of sleep, and that makes every day SO much easier for me.

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CHORES CHORES AND MORE CHORES: Ok so my infant doesn’t have any chores (yet) but the older two know their chores and responsibilities. They both know to clean their rooms and living room before bed time, put their dirty clothes in the laundry hamper outside of their rooms, and where to put their shoes and backpacks when they come home from school. They both wipe the table after dinner (even though I wipe the crumbs off of it before they wipe) it’s all about making them feel proud, useful and accomplished. And the more they get used to doing, the less I have to do! Win-win situation.

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My three year old is totally OCD and needs his things in a certain order. God forbid someone ruin the order - all hell will break loose!

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TOY ROTATION SYSTEM / NO TV: Instead of turning on the TV for them when I want them to be quiet and out of my way, I will bring a bucket of “new” toys for them to play with. The “new” toys are just their old toys that were stored away that they forgot they have. I have lots of buckets filled with toys, and I let them play with one bucket at a time. Then when they get bored of those toys I will switch out the bucket. This system works miracles for me! Another win!!

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MAKING SURE THE KITCHEN IS CLEAN BEFORE BED: I don’t know why, but having a clean and spotless kitchen just makes me feel like I’m ready to conquer the world. The rest of my house can be an absolute mess, but for some reason, waking up to a clean kitchen just makes everything better. Every night no matter how tired I am, the counters need to be cleaned and cloroxed and all the dirty dishes need to be in the dishwasher. If I wake up to a dirty kitchen I will feel paralyzed for the rest of the day, and it will completely trash my productivity.

PLANNING: This is something I picked up more from hubby, who is literally a master planner. Being a great planner helps with all aspects of life, and can make taking care of multiples feel like a breeze! A little planning goes a long way, and is so necessary when trying to successfully run your household. Me and hubby hold monthly meetings to plan for the following month. We plan for things such as fun events for the kids, when and what to order online (we are ALL about Amazon Fresh and Prime), and when to do finances and hold budgeting meetings. I also make a meal plan every month for the following month and it helps tremendously.

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So there are times in our life where for some reason or another we may not do the things above. The world doesn’t fall apart BUT there tends to be more conflict, less fun and more stress. We find that doing these things makes life so much easier for all of us (but especially for mom and dad:) Many people think having three kids this small is really difficult, but it’s really not too bad. I’m not saying it’s a piece of cake, but it’s no way as hard as I initially imagined. You just need to have a system that works for you. These tips might work great for some yet no so much for others. Always just do what works for you and your family.

About: Leila Rahmanian and Salar Rahmanian

Leila Rahmanian is married to Salar Rahmanian. They live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have three wonderful kids, two boys named Valentino Rahmanian and Caspian Rahmanian and a beautiful daughter named Persephone Rahmanian.