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Im Obsessed With My Kid

I know all (or most) mothers love their children, but I think I’m really obsessed with mine. It’s almost unhealthy. When he’s sleeping, in the middle of the night, I have these urges to go wake him up and hug and squeeze him. And forget about working! I miss him like crazy just when he takes his naps, so I’m not sure how I would survive working a whole 8 hours while being away from him (even if its just part time). Just one look at him makes my heart melt and drops me to my knees.

Is this even normal?!?

I have so many dreams for him. I want him to be the best at everything he sets his mind to. I want him to be an entrepreneur and to start his own business at the age of 12. I want to instill in him a work ethic like his daddy has and I want him to start working at the age of 7. I want him to do well financially, know how to manage his money, and would like him to pay rent and taxes on his allowance while living under our roof. He will have to pay property tax on his toys.

Ok just kidding.

Err not. No child of mine will be “loos e nonor” and spoiled. Life is tough and unfair, and I want him to be able to handle it and cope when things don’t go his way, or when he doesn’t get what he wants. Oh, and he will speak no less than 4 languages, play the cello and be first chair, and go to an Ivy League school. Am I reaching for the moon here?

While I want him to become super-child, I also want him to have a happy childhood. I’d like learning to be fun for him. At 9 months I enrolled him in Mandarin classes (I had to beg the center to let him attend, as they wouldn’t allow babies younger than a year), and he’s also enrolled in swimming classes. I figured the earlier the better. He seems to enjoy these classes, even though the other kids are older than him. I would have enrolled him in more classes but it’s really difficult to find programs who are willing to teach babies who can’t even talk yet. If anyone knows of any, will you please let me know? :)

I am also trying to teach him how to read now, even though that proves challenging as he can’t even talk yet. He is mostly interested in eating the books I read to him, but nonetheless I read to him anyway.

But I will never do that Iranian thing of pressuring him into being a doctor or a lawyer. I probably will pressure him to become a software developer like his dad though :) But seriously, even if he wants to become an artist, that’s fine, so long as he works hard and puts his 100% in whatever he chooses to do.

Valentino in Chinese class with his auntie Sara:


Swimming class with his daddy:


About: Leila Rahmanian and Salar Rahmanian

Leila Rahmanian is married to Salar Rahmanian. They live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have three wonderful kids, two boys named Valentino Rahmanian and Caspian Rahmanian and a beautiful daughter named Persephone Rahmanian.