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How I Got Both Babies to Sleep Through the Night Tips and Tricks

Ever since my babies were three months old I got them to successfully sleep in their cribs through the night. Unless they are ill or teething, both of them will gladly sleep a full night without waking up. I remember when I was a kid I would gladly sleep up to 13 hours a night. I don’t get as much sleep as I would like now, but I’m just so glad that at least the kiddos do. Maybe it’s a genetic thing that they inherited from me? I don’t know, but I’m definitely not complaining.

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During the first three months, however, I got my @$$ handed to me. They killed me. I was chronically exhausted. I would go days without sleep.

When Valentino was a newborn he had his days and nights mixed up. This meant that I was up through the night from 11pm until 8am attempting to soothe him while he screamed and cried for hours and hours. It took over two months to get Valentino to sleep through the night.

It took a lot of time and patience to fix his day and night mix up. This is what helped when he was a newborn:

-Not letting him nap after 6pm

-At 10pm give him a bath with lavender baby wash

-At 11pm give a full bottle of formula. I would make sure to change him before feeding him because he would sometimes fall asleep while drinking from the bottle.

-When he falls asleep while drinking from the bottle, I will take him to the crib, hold him, and VERY SLOWLY put him down on his back in the crib. I would keep my upper body against his for a few minutes after I put him in his crib (this was very uncomfortable for me, to try to make him feel like I was still holding him even when he was laying down) It’s all about the warmth of your body. They like that.

-I actually wouldn’t swaddle. I found that falling asleep in my arms and then very slowly putting baby in the crib was better than waking baby up to get a perfect swaddle.

Sometimes he would wake up after 10 minutes, and sometimes after 2 hours. I would get up from my bed EVERY time I heard him cry and do it all over again (change him, bottle, and SLOWLY put him in crib once he fell asleep)

I would NOT bring him to sleep in our bed. Even if it meant getting up every 20 minutes to get him content again. I also wouldn’t let him cry for more than ten minutes. This meant that most nights I was lucky to get a full hour of sleep. So I did all this every night for about two months. Hubby would help me on weekends, but on weekdays I wouldn’t let him so that he could be alert during the day to work. After 2 months of doing this every day we finally got him to sleep through the night. When Caspian was born he gave me less trouble than Valentino. He knew that nights were for sleeping, but I would still wake up every 2 to 3 hours for feedings. For about a week I co slept with Caspian, but that was because he had surgery when he was a newborn and I wanted to constantly check on his breathing after the surgery. Other than that, I made sure both kids slept in their own cribs every night.

Before being pregnant I was a big advocate of co sleeping and I wanted all the benefits like attachment and bonding that it comes with. However, I changed my mind because I wanted them to get used to sleeping by themselves in their own cribs. Babies are creatures of habit. I didn’t want them to get used to sleeping in our bed because then they will probably still want to do that when they are 12 years old, and that just wouldn’t work for us. Sorry kiddos.

Even though my kids are heavy sleepers for the most part, once in a while they will throw a big tantrum or wake up through the night if something is bothering them- like a bad tummy or teething issues. When this happens I will get a little help from technology. Don’t judge me:

I would turn on the iPad, put on peppa pig on youtube and fast forward it to the last 15 minutes of the cartoon. I turn off the lights, close their door and leave. The iPad is on a shelf directly opposite of their cribs so they just sit in their crib and enjoy some cartoons and then by the time the cartoon is over they will always be content and fall back asleep. Caspian has this thing (I don’t know what it’s called) that plays music and has glowing lights that we hang from his crib. It fascinates him, and after 15 to 20 minutes it stops playing. Once it stops he will fall back asleep.

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One of the biggest reasons I originally wanted to co-sleep with my babies was because studies have shown that doing so decreases the risk of SIDS by nearly half! So because I am super paranoid I got this special kind of monitor to alleviate my fears.

http://www.amazon.com/Angelcare-Movement-Sound-Monitor-Deluxe/dp/B00HE66YU8/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1462237111&sr=1-4&keywords=angelcare

It comes with a sensor pad that you put under your baby’s mattress that detects if baby has stopped moving/breathing. Does it prevent SIDS? Probably not, but it does makes me feel a bit better about not being right next to my baby all night.

There’s this new monitor that didn’t exist when my kids were infants that I recently found out about. It’s this slipper that you put on your baby’s foot and it monitors your baby’s vitals and alerts you if baby stops breathing. Had it existed only a few years ago I would have definitely used it.

https://www.owletcare.com/

We also have baby cams in each of their rooms so that we can constantly check on them without waking them up.

And no, this isn’t a sponsored post.

Because I had gotten both babies used to sleeping in their own cribs when they were infants, they now associate sleep time with their own cribs and being by themselves. A few months ago when Valentino got sick with the flu, I tried to have him sleep in our bed so that I could make sure he continued breathing through the night (because, you know, I’m kind of paranoid). All throughout the night he wouldn’t sleep, kept tossing and turning, and couldn’t seem to find a comfortable position. So in the middle of the night I took him back to his crib, and as soon as I put him down he put his head on his pillow and just fell asleep. Ya, just like that! I couldn’t believe it! He actually prefers to sleep alone! What?!??

So my single best piece of advice for getting your baby used to sleeping in their own cribs is: START EARLY. If you co-sleep until your baby becomes a toddler and then you want to transition them into sleeping in their own beds, be prepared for a long difficult battle. But then again, I hate offering unsolicited advice, so really though, do your own thing.

Anyways, when it comes to parenting styles, people have so many strong opinions on the best way to do things. These were just some tips based on what has worked for me, but every kid and family is different. Do what works for you.

About: Leila Rahmanian and Salar Rahmanian

Leila Rahmanian is married to Salar Rahmanian. They live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have three wonderful kids, two boys named Valentino Rahmanian and Caspian Rahmanian and a beautiful daughter named Persephone Rahmanian.